by Sherry, Peter and Émilie
Who am I? Who are you? Who are
we? Those are some of the questions that many of us ask ourselves during our
lifetime. As human beings, we often attempt to answer those questions by
searching for the truth whether it is by referring to our loved ones, our
surroundings, our beliefs and our culture. However, truth is a concept that
varies from people to people as its definition is personal and no one is quite
the same. In fact, those differences in mentality, in understanding and in
perceiving sometimes bring on conflicts as a compromise or an agreement cannot
be met. Also, as human beings, we all possess the need, or in some cases, the
urgency, to socialize with our kind. Why is that? In short, we all need
"witnesses to our life" as without those "witnesses" we
might as well be not alive at all...
This week, in order to come to a
"partial" understanding of what the Self, or on a bigger scale, what
Life involves, two documentaries were analyze: Stories We Tell by Sarah Polley
and Silverlake Life: A View from Here by Tom Joslin and Peter Friedman.
Stories We Tell by Sarah Polley, 2013, Canada, 109 minutes
This documentary shared many
facts of life such as the lost of loved ones, for example, a mother, whether it is
due to sickness or old age, and trying to come to a closure once they have
passed away. Understanding the past therefore played an important role as it
influences the present, the reality as it is known today. The concept of
reality is also brought on as it is blurred with the concept of fiction; life
can be seen as a performance and a quest for answers, for the truth. However,
what is the truth? How can we be sure of the "truth"? Those are some
questions that are illustrated in the film. Also, the "norms"
established by society are criticized as they often "judge" someone
or a situation based on what it appears to be. The role of women, men and
family are clearly predetermined according to society and should therefore be
"respected" in order to be accepted and considered
"normal". Sarah, the filmmaker, not only created a documentary about
her mother's, Diane Polley, life but also managed in the process to create a
personal journal of her family and herself as well as present a romantic drama
and a memoir for her mother. She interrogated all of the people her mother was
surrounded with in order to make sense of her past as a child since her mother died
when she was eleven years old.
The documentary is filmed such
that the what is usually unseen is presented to the viewers. For example,
Sarah' father, Michael, the narrator, is filmed as he reads the story in a
studio in order to record his voice for the documentary. At that time, we can
see Sarah giving instructions to her dad on recapitulating a part of the story
or on the way of delivering the story. We not only witness Diane Polley's life
journey and come to understand that she was after all a woman of secrets, but
we also participate in the making of the documentary as we can see the steps
that Sarah had to undertake in order to create her story, her documentary. The
authorship of the documentary is also a special aspect of the film. Even though
Sarah is the filmmaker, she makes sure to include all the members of her family
as well as some of her mother's friends such that she has a better overview of
who her mother truly was. At this point, Sarah finds out that her mother not
only had an affair during her first marriage, but also during her second
marriage which resulted in her birth. Michael is therefore not Sarah's actual
father, Harry, a man with whom her mother worked is her biological father. Once
that discovery is made, she includes his vision of her mother in her
documentary. She also includes archival footage and reconstitutions of events
acted out by actors such that her
mother's life journey seems to be unravelling in front of us. The way she
arranges her documentary shows that it is more a matter of emotions than actual
facts. For example, when she asks her interviewers to discuss her mother's
passing, no words are pronounced, only silent faces of pure sadness are shown.
This week, during class, the
movie was analyzed in a way such that our weekly topic of Self Portraits was
exposed. A Self Portrait is basically an artist unveiling itself, showing a side of their Self that is often hidden or
not obvious by using their creativity and imagination as well as by reaching to
their viewers, their audience, their "witnesses to life". In this
case, Sarah's documentary can be considered as her Self Portrait as she reveals
to her audience not only the artist within her but also the person she is as a
daughter, a sister and a friend. She offers a perspective of her story, or more
precisely, her life from the inside (her own emotions and reactions) and from
the outside (her interviewers' emotions and reactions). For example, as she
instructs her father Michael on what to do, he replies: "It's not the
normal way of doing this, is it?"
Here is a link that offers a short article on an artist's Self Portrait:
The fact that her documentary can relate to
basically any human beings since it evokes many facts of life as discussed
earlier, shows how the personal aspect of her film also corresponds to a
universal aspect of life.
Silverlake Life: A View from Here by Tom Joslin and Peter Friedman, 1993, USA, 99 minutes
This documentary presents many issues that are
present in society as a whole. The cause of AIDS which also relates to any type
of diseases is definitely a subject that is universal. The fact that cures have
not been found for this disease as it is for many other diseases made life seem
as a "death sentence". However, it also engendered the concept of
living to the fullest as if every day was your last day. Then, the concept of
vitality was introduced as the filmmakers were searching for
"witnesses" for their lives, making them feel more "alive"
in their sickness. It gave them a way out of the misery they face every day due
to their health conditions. Death was consequently presented in the documentary
as well. Also, the fact that the two filmmakers, Tom and Mark, were a gay
couple brought on the subject of homosexuality. They then shared the struggles
they went through due to their sexual orientation; not being accepted as a
person, not being understood and being looked down upon.
As the documentary was personally
filmed by Mark and Tom themselves, their story became even more personal to the
viewers as it felt as if the nothing from "real life" was hidden, as
if a part of the truth was presented through the film. The fact that the camera
showed movement as Tom and Mark moved since they were filming by hand made the
viewers feel as if they were right there beside them, feeling the same emotions
as them and especially feeling empathy towards them. This "closeness"
between the filmmakers and the audience is what made the documentary so
special. The viewers could feel the purity behind Tom and Mark's emotions,
facial expressions, reactions, etc. Also, the fact that the documentary
presents the couple's private life in a way that their life seems universal,
that their situation can relate to anyone whether it is by diseases, death,
homosexuality and/or by feeling constricted and powerless. The filmmakers
talked about subjects that are often avoided in society as they are generally
associated to negative thoughts. However, they still managed to show how life
is a cycle and that misery can be overcome when there is will.
This documentary corresponds to a
Self Portrait of the two filmmakers, Tom and Mark. However, even
though their "self portrait" are personal to each one of them, they
are still universal and relate to every single person. For example, Tom brings
up the question "What's the Answer?" a few times during the
documentary. However, at the end, after Mark repeats that same question, he
responds "What's the Question?" This scene can relate to the meaning
of truth and how it varies from people to people as the question is never the
same therefore the answer is the never the same. Also, the fact that we still don't
know what the question nor what the answer is demonstrates the ambiguity
present in Truth. The authorship of the documentary is shared between Mark,
Tom, their family and friends as their "stories" also help build the
couple's story: the documentary itself. After all, their surroundings, their
"witnesses to Life" are what confirms that they are alive.
For more interesting responses to the documentary Silverlake Life, don't hesitate to visit the website:
http://www.pbs.org/pov/silverlakelife/
Our Personal Response
Through
the two films, one being Stories We Tell that was viewed in class and the
other Silverlake Life: A view from here that our group viewed together; there
are things that we can learn about ourselves. Sometimes we are afraid to say
who we really are based on society’s outlook but more importantly the opinions
that we care most about are from our family and friends. This is shown in both
films. In Stories We Tell, Diane Polley never reveals to her family about her
love affair that resulted in the birth of Sarah, the filmmaker. She told her close friends but never her
family. Diane had made the newspaper
when she divorced her first husband and wasn’t going to make it known that she
had a love affair while being with her second husband, Michael. We can assume
that the main reason she didn’t tell her family was because she was afraid to
hurt her husband, and her children that have grown up to see what their role
models of marriage and family were like.
She was afraid to tell her family because she didn’t want them to judge
her as well. We can all relate to this
because we never want the ones who are closest to us to judge us or look down
upon us for something that we have done.
Silverlake Life also corresponds to
this because when both Mark and Tom were diagnosed with AIDS, Tom felt it was
really difficult to tell his family of his diagnosis that would someday cost
him his life. It took Tom a long time to
tell his family since both of his parents weren’t fond of the idea that he was
with Mark who was of the same-sex as him, but they also weren’t very fond of
Mark himself to begin with. They
eventually found out as Mark had been telling people he was diagnosed with
AIDS, so Tom decided he would tell them
as well. What prolonged Tom in confiding in his family and finally telling them
his diagnosis of AIDS, was the fear of how they would react and think of him,
how they would judge him, similar to Diane’s story in Stories We Tell.
What
we can learn about ourselves through these films is that our close and loved
ones, although it might not seem like it at first, are the ones that are the
most understanding and will accept us no matter what we’ve done or what tough
conditions that we face in life. And
this can challenge our understanding of the world we live in since we often
tend to distance ourselves from the ones we care about when we feel ashamed or
when we are affected by something bigger than us such as diseases or even love.
We can also relate the messages from these films to our lives, maybe on a
smaller scale compared but we can certainly relate to what we have been shown
in these films. For example, going
through the loss of a loved one, as in both Sarah’s family and, Mark and Tom’s
family, is never easy for anyone. We can also relate to the fear of telling our
loved ones something that we are afraid will hurt, affect or disappoint them;
we all go through such situations in our lives.
The
filmmakers were very successful at communicating their ideas to their audience
through the techniques that they used; their documentaries were created in a
way that felt personal to each and every one of us. In Stories We Tell, Sarah
interviews, or more precisely, interrogates everybody who was close to her
mother Diane in order to get their sides of her mother's story since she wasn’t
able to be there to tell it herself. Her
technique of getting her father, Michael, to read his version of her story as
Sarah was growing up thinking Michael was her father, and when she found out
that Harry, the man her mother had an affair with actually was her biological
father, was impactful for the audience as it was unexpected. At this point, we
learn that even if Harry is Sarah's biological father, Michael will always
remain her father for her. In Silverlake Life, Tom had originally been the filmmaker
and started the filming himself, but after he passed away due to his disease,
Mark fulfilled his promise by finishing the film for Tom. Mark definitely
touched the audience through his act of love. In the film, like Stories We
Tell, we see many points of view from family members and friends but also Tom
and Mark themselves. The most powerful
way that Tom and Mark communicated their ideas was when they showed the real
effects that AIDS had on their everyday lives, so they filmed their everyday
lives. “What a way to live, what a way to die.” as Tom said one day when he had
to take a break from shopping because he was exhausted. This is one of the many examples in the film
that show the difficulties and hardship that Mark and Tom, but also of all the
others diagnosed with AIDS, go through and how the simplest everyday tasks can
seem or become unattainable. At the ending, Tom plays a footage of Mark and him
healthy, dancing and saying: "What is the Answer? What is the
Question?" The fact that they bring up these interrogations reaches the
viewers as those same questions are often asked by each and every one of
us...but never mentioned at loud.















